Migraines, Women and Intimacy

We all have heard the saying, "Not tonight, I have a headache" before.  Every husband or boyfriend hates when we say it.  Many women use the "headache" as a scapegoat for sex when they're just not in the mood.  It's been over used to the point where it's become a joke.  But for the women who suffer from migraine disease who experience true headaches for days at a time, when we say "I have a headache" it's the truth.  Unlike the women who use headaches to not be intimate, we truly want to be close with our spouses or partners but the pain gets in the way.  Headaches give us a bad rap.

I know that for me, I feel so bad when I can't show my affection through intimacy because I've had a week long migraine.  Especially since my husband does all that he can to make me feel better despite his hectic schedule.  Many times I go ahead with it knowing that it will probably make me feel worse but why should he suffer?  It's a terrible predicament to be in.  We want to satisfy our partners not deprive them.  I often feel guilty that his wife has so many medical issues that interfere with our sex life.  I want to show him how much I love him but it isn't very easy when you have throbbing, stabbing pain in your head and feel so nauseated that you want to die.

I'm curious to see if there is anyone who feels the way that I do about this subject.  I've never seen or heard it talked about and it came to mind as I laid in bed last night in pain.  Like so many other things that migraine affects this is no exception.  We become very limited with this disease and it can alter many aspects of daily living.  There are many subjects that aren't approached when it comes to migraines so I thought I would open the door on this particular one.  Please chime in and let me know if this is a problem for you.  As for the women who say they have a headache when they really don't, do us a favor and just say "I'm not in the mood".